“You can’t go to McDonald’s and expect fillet mignon,” said my supervisor during my therapist training. “No matter how many times you go to McDonald’s expecting fillet mignon, you will always get a hamburger. McDonald’s serves hamburgers.” The metaphor he used for describing unmet childhood needs really resonated with me. There are many reasons why […]
Unconditionally Loved Adult Children- Seeing your Parents through their Intentions
It happens. As you get older, you realize your parents are not perfect. You stop idealizing them and often stop wishing they would be the perfect parent. You see them for whom they really are. It can be really challenging to work through disappointments, to see how they have influenced your life but have not […]
Navigating Relationships- 10 Recommendations for Improving Relationship Satisfaction
Being in a romantic relationship can bring up a myriad of emotions. No one ever teaches us how to engage in a satisfying relationship. We do receive messages about relationships from our parents and relatives, but those messages aren’t always helpful. It can be confusing for couples to know what to do to enhance their […]
The Honeymoon’s Over, The Thrill is Gone, Now What?: A Couple’s Guide to Love
You meet; it’s love at first sight, the bells and whistles are going off, the birds are singing, and everything is brighter, right? Well, not really. Most of us have been exposed to the idea that relationships should be flawless and smooth, that you will always adore your partner, that he or she will meet […]