Having your own child can stir up a lot of feelings about your own mother. There is a fairly predominant fantasy that you and your mother will bond and feel connected once you yourself have become a mother. For many women this is reality. Their mothers are available, connected to them and their children, and […]
Satisfy Your Craving at the Right Restaurant: An Overview on Unmet Childhood Needs
“You can’t go to McDonald’s and expect fillet mignon,” said my supervisor during my therapist training. “No matter how many times you go to McDonald’s expecting fillet mignon, you will always get a hamburger. McDonald’s serves hamburgers.” The metaphor he used for describing unmet childhood needs really resonated with me. There are many reasons why […]
Unconditionally Loved Adult Children- Seeing your Parents through their Intentions
It happens. As you get older, you realize your parents are not perfect. You stop idealizing them and often stop wishing they would be the perfect parent. You see them for whom they really are. It can be really challenging to work through disappointments, to see how they have influenced your life but have not […]